Male violence & male suicide are symptoms of the same problem.

And it’s a problem that only the voices of men will change.

There’s statistics being thrown left, right and centre. So much so, we’re in danger of forgetting this has all stemmed from the horrific abduction and murder of a woman.

One side can’t understand the outpour over one isolated incident, one bad man — but behind every statistic a real human life has been lost. With that comes grieving friends and families whose lives will never be the same.

That in itself justifies the grief and anger. But I think it’s the randomness of it that has particularly hit a nerve. A woman being abducted from a public place is rare. So, until we learn further details, it was simply and cruelly a woman being in the wrong place at the wrong time.

Which has made it a bit too close to home. Because of the shared experiences women have moving around in a ‘man’s world’, we realised how easily it could’ve been us, our best friend, mother, sister or daughter in that situation.

I’m no expert and like everyone else can only come to this with my own experience and understanding.

For me, there seems to be an obvious connection between two statistics that are being used on opposing sides — when in fact they both spring from the same issue.

The first being 9 out of 10 killers in the UK are male. Which is why many are challenging the narrative. Rather than talking about how we protect…